Filipino Spouses/Fiancee of Foreigner

by Jennifer Good

Seduction is the art, and joy, of tempting your partner into aromantic, sensual liaison. It is less about the outcome of yourliaison, and more about the game of seducing. When you begin a game ofseduction you are inviting your partner to a completely sensualexperience designed to heighten ALL of their senses. Your partnershould be in a passive role, while you determine which sense toheighten and which zone to pleasure.

Typically, a successful seduction is longer than your averagelovemaking session, and can even last over a few days or weeks. It'simportant to remember that coupling doesn't always have to happen.Think of it as an extended foreplay session. If days of sensualinnuendoes and mood setters can't get your partner in the mood, nothingwill!

Before beginning your seduction plan, you need to decide how long youwant your seduction to last. Is there a special day coming up? Do youwant to make some serious changes in your love play? If so, a week longseduction might be a better approach. Once you've decided your time limit, you'll want to look at how youwant to begin capturing your partner's sensual attention. There arenumerous ways to go about this. The most important thing to rememberabout this stage is that you should NOT couple! This is about gettingtheir interest and heightening their senses for when you actually docouple. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

♥ leave an erotic love note on their pillow

♥ e-mail a fantasy you wish to enact with them

♥ give a sensual massage using your favorite massage oils

♥ have a finger food picnic

♥ play a lover's game

♥ kiss longer and more frequently

♥ find more opportunities to touch your partner

♥ make eye contact more frequently

♥ watch a semi-erotic move such as Henry & June

♥ have an old fashion "necking" session

The Main Event

Now that you've put all this effort into getting your partner ready,it's time to move onto the main event. Again, it's important toremember that the longer you draw out the seduction, the better it willbe.

There are various stages of arousal you enter into when engaging inlove play. The shorter the experience, the lower the level of arousalyou are able to access. The longer the experience, the higher the levelof arousal you and your partner can enter into. Thus, if you canprolong the experience you will create a memory you will both treasurefor quite a while.

To make the most of this factor, you'll need to have things in placethat will heighten all of your partner's senses. We're talking about afull assault on their senses. When you're done with them you'll leavethem wondering how sex could have ever been otherwise. Here are someideas to get you started:

♥ Sense of Sight: Care and attention should be placed on thelocation. If in your bedroom, candles lit, silky bedding and lots ofpillows are a must. Arouse this sense further with lingerie.

♥ Sense of Smell: Aromatics can work for you or against you. Makesure you know which scents your partner enjoys. Get scented candles,incense or scented massage oil to help heighten this sense.

♥ Sense of Taste: This can be incorporated in two ways. One isthrough food with aphrodisiac qualities such as strawberries oroysters. The other is through edible lotions, chocolate syrups or whipcream.

Sense of Hearing: Get creative and record yourselftelling an erotic story and leave it playing in the background. Or,play music that fits the overall mood you are going for. If you havesensual movies you may want to have the sound playing in the background.

♥ Sense of Touch: One of the most erotic senses of all is thesense of touch. You will already be using this sense just by engagingthe seduction. To heighten it you need to make sure every time theyfeel something against their skin it has an extra sensation added toit. You can do this with silky bedding, silky lingerie, or even with amassage with your favorite oils. You may also want to try a feather,something furry or a rose when you touch them.

You can further heighten the senses by hindering one of themcompletely. A reduction causes the other senses to work more to make upfor the loss. You can remove the sense of sight by using a blindfold.You can remove the sense of touch by using restraints. You need to makesure your partner would be comfortable with this type of love playbefore doing this though.

For an additional benefit, when you execute your main event, you maywant to try something a little different. For example, a tryst withrole-playing may let your partner become more open and result in newlevels of arousal. Or, a prolonged temptation before letting them reachtheir peak will certainly get results.

Remember, this is your seduction. You can do whatever you KNOW will getyour partner excited. The main point is to infuse some creative lovinginto your relationship. If you've lost a bit of that "new loveattraction" this is an excellent way to get it back. Every few months,make sure you do something similar to this to keep the spark alive andcreate some fantastic memories to look back upon!