Filipino Spouses/Fiancee of Foreigner

As a woman, here are some simple tips and how men can help.

Value yourself, and relationships where you are an equal.

In any relationship, there is going to be give-and-take as situations and circumstances change, but you should also feel that, overall, your value in the partnership is equal to that of your partner's.

Learn how to own your voice and assert your opinions. 

Pay attention to how women have been socialized to defer to men in conversations.  For all you men, avoid interrupting, talking over, discrediting or dismissing a woman's opinion.  Studies show that women are more frequently interrupted than men. Over the course of many conversations, they get the message that what they have to say is not necessarily as compelling or valued as what men have to say.

Identify words and language that communicate gender bias.

Make an effort to consciously change the language so it draws attention to areas where bias is apparent.  Two places to look for gender bias include position titles that infer gender and school/employer policies that infer gender.

Speak up about sexist jokes or sexist images.

Promote sexual harassment policies in your workplace.

Focus on the person instead appearance.

To foster a healthier self-image, compliment yourself or other woman for achievements, thoughts, and actions. 

Call attention to media deception.

Expose and understand unrealistic media images for what they are: retouched, computer-manipulated photos of models-a group that makes up only a tiny subset of the population.

Learn how to ask and negotiate for wages and raises.

Know the worth of your job. Education is your best defense. Research everything you can think of to find the competitive salary for your job in your region -- employment surveys, libraries, professional organizations, peers.  For a raise, you need evidence to show your boss that you deserve it.  One way to document your contribution to your company is to keep a job diary. Every week, or even every day, write down what you did and how it helped meet the company's objectives. Keep lists or spreadsheets, because managers like to count things. Remember that attributes such as positive attitude, willingness to put in overtime, and quality of work, are essential. Include a few good stories about your work in the diary to illustrate what you added.

Think about, plan and prepare for career advancement.

Mentors are a great asset.  If your company doesn't offer clear career ladders, research or find a seminar to help you understand your industry and opportunities.

Encourage risk taking.

People develop self-reliance when they're given the space to solve problems and make mistakes in the process.

Know and be able to manage your finances.

Start saving for retirement immediately in a career - it will grow to much more than the same amount if you wait 10 years to start saving.  And keep saving - Social Security doesn't provide the equivalent of a "living wage" for retirement years.  Women statistically live about six years longer than men, and run a higher risk of living in poverty as they get older.

What Makes A Great Partner?

♥ Someone who knows what you need before you say it.

♥ Someone who knows when to laugh and when to cry.

♥  Someone who truly listens when you have something to say.

♥Someone that's there for you during the good and bad times. Someone who is caring

♥Someone who loves you with all their heart and soul.

♥Someone who is interested in reality and not as a fashion display.Someone who is honest.

♥Someone you can trust them like a sibling, confide in like a friend but most of all, love as the

♥great lover they are.Someone who is open and responsive.

♥Someone who is never critical and ill-tempered in respect to your needs.

♥Someone who knows when things have to be compromised in the relationship.

♥Someone who understands listening is a key, but using what is heard is even more important. Someone who's there for you no matter what.

♥Someone who is trustful.Someone who is a friend.

♥Someone who gives a shoulder to cry on.

♥Someone with a great sense of humor.

♥Someone who has things in common with you.

♥Someone who takes time to listen and enjoy you for who you are and tries not to make you something else.

♥Someone with a constant open ear, open heart, and open mind to accept and love people for who the really are.

♥Someone who will always be there to support your ideas without argument and love you for everything that you are.

♥Someone that can get a point across without yelling.Someone that remembers all the cute stupid stuff you love.

♥Someone that has a personality with qualities you don't have yourself, but admire greatly in them.

♥Someone who realizes you're two separate people, and appreciates the differences.

♥Someone who can sense a mood problem, and not take it personally.

♥Someone who understands the difference between PMS, and a real problem.

♥Someone who can make you happy when your sad.Someone who tells you the truth even if you don't want to hear it. Someone who will not hurt you intentionally.

♥Someone who is a sweet, romantic person who cherishes you no matter what.

♥Someone that you can laugh with.

♥Someone who you can feel comfortable with and that you don't care what kind of weird stuff they see you do because you know they will still love you no matter what.

♥Someone who will love you in spite of your little idiosyncrasies.

♥Someone that would do anything to show how much they care.

♥Someone who is a great pal, a great kisser, and a great lover!

♥Someone who allows you to be yourself around them.

♥Someone who will respect you.

♥Someone who cherishes your hopes and is kind to your dreams.

♥Someone who knows you're not perfect, but treats you as though you are.Someone who listens with their heart and is your source of inspiration.

by Jennifer Good

Seduction is the art, and joy, of tempting your partner into aromantic, sensual liaison. It is less about the outcome of yourliaison, and more about the game of seducing. When you begin a game ofseduction you are inviting your partner to a completely sensualexperience designed to heighten ALL of their senses. Your partnershould be in a passive role, while you determine which sense toheighten and which zone to pleasure.

Typically, a successful seduction is longer than your averagelovemaking session, and can even last over a few days or weeks. It'simportant to remember that coupling doesn't always have to happen.Think of it as an extended foreplay session. If days of sensualinnuendoes and mood setters can't get your partner in the mood, nothingwill!

Before beginning your seduction plan, you need to decide how long youwant your seduction to last. Is there a special day coming up? Do youwant to make some serious changes in your love play? If so, a week longseduction might be a better approach. Once you've decided your time limit, you'll want to look at how youwant to begin capturing your partner's sensual attention. There arenumerous ways to go about this. The most important thing to rememberabout this stage is that you should NOT couple! This is about gettingtheir interest and heightening their senses for when you actually docouple. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

♥ leave an erotic love note on their pillow

♥ e-mail a fantasy you wish to enact with them

♥ give a sensual massage using your favorite massage oils

♥ have a finger food picnic

♥ play a lover's game

♥ kiss longer and more frequently

♥ find more opportunities to touch your partner

♥ make eye contact more frequently

♥ watch a semi-erotic move such as Henry & June

♥ have an old fashion "necking" session

The Main Event

Now that you've put all this effort into getting your partner ready,it's time to move onto the main event. Again, it's important toremember that the longer you draw out the seduction, the better it willbe.

There are various stages of arousal you enter into when engaging inlove play. The shorter the experience, the lower the level of arousalyou are able to access. The longer the experience, the higher the levelof arousal you and your partner can enter into. Thus, if you canprolong the experience you will create a memory you will both treasurefor quite a while.

To make the most of this factor, you'll need to have things in placethat will heighten all of your partner's senses. We're talking about afull assault on their senses. When you're done with them you'll leavethem wondering how sex could have ever been otherwise. Here are someideas to get you started:

♥ Sense of Sight: Care and attention should be placed on thelocation. If in your bedroom, candles lit, silky bedding and lots ofpillows are a must. Arouse this sense further with lingerie.

♥ Sense of Smell: Aromatics can work for you or against you. Makesure you know which scents your partner enjoys. Get scented candles,incense or scented massage oil to help heighten this sense.

♥ Sense of Taste: This can be incorporated in two ways. One isthrough food with aphrodisiac qualities such as strawberries oroysters. The other is through edible lotions, chocolate syrups or whipcream.

Sense of Hearing: Get creative and record yourselftelling an erotic story and leave it playing in the background. Or,play music that fits the overall mood you are going for. If you havesensual movies you may want to have the sound playing in the background.

♥ Sense of Touch: One of the most erotic senses of all is thesense of touch. You will already be using this sense just by engagingthe seduction. To heighten it you need to make sure every time theyfeel something against their skin it has an extra sensation added toit. You can do this with silky bedding, silky lingerie, or even with amassage with your favorite oils. You may also want to try a feather,something furry or a rose when you touch them.

You can further heighten the senses by hindering one of themcompletely. A reduction causes the other senses to work more to make upfor the loss. You can remove the sense of sight by using a blindfold.You can remove the sense of touch by using restraints. You need to makesure your partner would be comfortable with this type of love playbefore doing this though.

For an additional benefit, when you execute your main event, you maywant to try something a little different. For example, a tryst withrole-playing may let your partner become more open and result in newlevels of arousal. Or, a prolonged temptation before letting them reachtheir peak will certainly get results.

Remember, this is your seduction. You can do whatever you KNOW will getyour partner excited. The main point is to infuse some creative lovinginto your relationship. If you've lost a bit of that "new loveattraction" this is an excellent way to get it back. Every few months,make sure you do something similar to this to keep the spark alive andcreate some fantastic memories to look back upon!

by Steven B. Smith

Managing Your Finances to Live Happily Ever After

Inthe words of John Lennon, “money can’t buy me love.” But money may leadto divorce. According to a study by the Creighton University Center forMarriage and Family, money is a leading reason couples fight and one ofthe main causes of divorce. If you’re planning on tying the knotanytime soon, now is the time to sit down with your groom-to-be and goover your finances.

Here are a few tips to make sure that money doesn’t get in the way of "happily ever after." 

1.Discuss and set long-term goals. Be open and honest indiscussing your finances. Determine what is important to both of you,and agree to work together to accomplish your goals, whether theyinclude paying off your debt, saving for a down payment on a home, orretirement planning. If you’re both on the same page for your long-termgoals, you’re less likely to argue about short-term spending.

Determine how you will handle the day-to-day management of yourfinances. Often one spouse will be more inclined to manage thefinances. That’s fine, but make sure that both are aware of what’sgoing on.

2. Create a monthly spending plan. Create a plan outlining what youare going to do with the money you earn. Use a secure online spendingmanagement program like Mvelopes Personal (www.mvelopes.com) toautomate your plan and make tracking easy. Use online bill pay to setup automatic transfers into a savings account to make saving simple.You can also set up automatic payments on your mortgage, car payment,credit card, or just about any other bill to avoid late payments (andthe accompanying arguments). Most banks offer online bill pay andMvelopes includes a free online bill pay service.

Set asidesome “fun money” to cover the occasional impulse buy. Most budgets failbecause people feel constrained by them. If you have some wiggle room,you’re much more likely to stick to your plan. Some couples prefer a“his spending” category and a “her spending” category – that way, solong as you have the money in your category, you can get those perfectshoes when you find them, without feeling guilty. And he can get thatnew golf club.

3. Start planning for your future…NOW. This may be the mostimportant thing you can do for yourself. Your wedding should be thestart of a wonderful life together, but if you really do want to livehappily ever after, you need to start planning for tomorrow today. Setaside some money in your spending plan for a retirement account.Contribute to a 401(k) or set up an automatic transfer to an IRA. Timecan be your biggest ally, or your worst enemy. The sooner you start,the easier it will be. Start today. Start now.

Money isn’t everything, and discussing your finances now won’tnecessarily ensure that you’ll end up millionaires, but it may helpavoid arguments later on. According to a study by economists DavidBlanchflower and Andrew Oswald, married people are healthier, bothphysically and psychologically, they live longer, they earn more moneyand they’re happier. In fact, about $100,000 per year would be neededto compensate for the happiness achieved through a lasting marriage,according to the study. And isn’t that why you’re getting married inthe first place…to live happily ever after?

On January 12, 2010 an earthquake of 7.0 magnitude hit Haiti. The international community responded very quickly. On top of  this, is our very own United States.

Many nations have been donating and organizations are trying to raise funds for Haiti's  renovation and help.There is just one concern that really disturbs me, That is some or a good number of Haitians will be going to ship to Unites States and start a new life here.

This matter has raised so many eyebrows of the vast majority of the Americans. In the present status of America right now, I myself believe that this is not a good thing to do. First, the ratio of blacks  in the US is way too high and that is equal to a very high crime rate as well. In contrary, there are  few blacks that really works to uplift the status of their living. Straight from my thoughts, the US has to support this Haitians through what? Food stamps and family checks? Not anymore! Think of what's going to happen if the American = tax payers will support our fellow brothers and sisters from Haiti.

Where does all the money from International community goes? I truly believe that the government of Haiti has received a good amount of money and they can put priority  on constructing an immediate response for the children on the streets. A tv show, "Extreme makeover: house edition" can build a humongous house in 7 days, why can't day?

Above all, I was very impressed on the response that some nations have contributed.

Let's donate for Haiti's rehabilitation by texting HAITI to 9-0-9-9-9  for a $10 donation.

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The Filipino Spouses/Fiancee of Foreigner.

We can all now enjoy and continue the fun we have at our original group from Friendster to here.

Some of us has been having problems accessing the group. Whether its about virus or just mainly friendster updating their layout.

Ate Belle encourage me to create our own site personally so we can have our own identity and also to create a solid place where we can all meet together at the end of the day and share every funny experiece we had on that day.

I will make my very best to put so much in this site as yours truly is one huge occupied individual now.  Rest assured that I will do my best to promote this site so we can have bigger and bigger family in the days to come.

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